Growing Older Is Actually Wonderful. Here’s Why…

A few days ago I turned 33. I feel like the natural inclination when it comes to acknowledging birthdays as an adult is to recoil in horror. "Oh my god I'm so oooold" Or "Please, I don't even want to think about it" Why? Why are we like this? Life Is So Damn Precious Last…

Guess what? I’m a neurotic mum and I’m completely fine with that

I am not a cool mum by any means. I'm a neurotic mum, a worried mum, a paranoid mum, a 'worst-case-scenario'mum and hey, I'm OK with that. This is my first baby and, like riding a bike, I'm nervous and trying to figure it out as I go along. It's a balancing act.   As…

I will never get over the fact that my grandmother died before meeting my child

I didn’t want to write about this for a long while because I simply wasn’t ready to. I still don’t think I’m ready to write about it. I still think I am struggling to process a lot of grief and anger. But I think there’s an element about my grandmother’s passing that I’m ready to…

Did feminism suck all the fun out of motherhood?

I have always considered myself a feminist. Sure, I might not 'look' like one (whatever that means, but I've been told it before), but I am. Heck, let's be honest here: every woman is a feminist even if they don't realise it, because feminism in its basic, basal terms is just about women demanding equality…

Why does my husband find parenting so easy?

A few months after giving birth I asked my husband how he thought I was doing at this whole motherhood thing. "I always knew you'd be a good mother. You're good at everything you do, you're such a perfectionist". He complimented me. He comforted me. He stroked my ego. But (me being me) I didn't…

Why working mother guilt may not be such a bad thing after all…

The guilt, my god the guilt. The confidence and conviction exhibited in first-time mothers about how they will cope/react/adjust when their baby arrives can only be compared to that of a 16-year-old teenager and their approach to, well, just about everything. They pretty much know it all, okay? They've read the books. They've watched the…